Judge Diane E. Gibbons Confirms Herself An Enemy of Free Speech and Supporter of Abuse By Silencing The Psycho Ex Wife WebsiteWritten by: Chris Print This Article
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In June 2011, Judge Diane E. Gibbons of Bucks County, Pennsylvania, illegally ordered an excellent web site called The Psycho Ex Wife to be taken down in violation of the US Constitution’s First Amendment. The site is reportedly owned by a Pennsylvania woman named Misty Weaver-Ostinato whose partner for the last several years has been a man named Anthony Morelli. On the site, they identified themselves as DW and “Mister M” never using their real names or identifying information, nor the real name or identifying information of Morelli’s ex who allegedly inspired the site with her behaviors.
First Amendment rights expert Eugene Volokh writes that he believes this order is blatantly unconstitutional, especially because of its expansiveness:
If the father says anything about the mother in public, he could be sent to jail for contempt of court. The order isn’t limited to banning libelous statements (though I think even such a much narrower ban would itself pose constitutional problems, especially under Pennsylvania law), nor is it even limited to statements about minor children (though even that sort of order strikes me as constitutionally impermissible). Rather, the court order categorically orders the removal of a Web site, and prohibits all public statements — factually accurate or not — by one person about another person.
Allison Morelli apparently claims that PEW (the abbreviation for “Psycho Ex Wife”, one of the main characters discussed on the site) is her, even though nobody is ever identified or named on the site. According to reports in other publications, PEW served as the source for around a quarter of the articles describing bizarre and abusive behaviors on the banned website.
Allison, for reasons that don’t make any sense to me at all, wants us all to believe that PEW is her and therefore the whole site is an attack on her. She claims the site is about her without naming or identifying her or anybody else. She simultaneously implies or maintains that she didn’t behave as the PEW character behaved but somehow she knows they were writing the site about her to attack her. This makes no sense to me, nor does it to much of anybody else except apparently Allison Morelli, her supporters, and Judge Gibbons.
The PEW character may not be meant to be literally interpreted. The words and actions appear to be what you could see as a synthesis of behaviors and conduct of more than one troubled ex-spouse. Certainly describing a person as looking like “Jabba the Hut” (a description used for PEW) is obviously figurative speech that no rational person is going to believe is a literal statement. Yet Allison Morelli claims the site is about her and is an attack on her, all the while trying to imply or claim she didn’t write the emails or do the actions described. But somehow she “knows” it is all about her.
However much literary license may have been taken with PEW’s words and actions and no matter what victimhood badge Allison is trying to win with her weird assertions, it is clear that “PEW” as used on the site often does not even refer to Allison Morelli even if you believe it sometimes does.
PEW is used to refer not just to the PEW character but also as a generic abbreviation throughout the site’s content. It means different things in different places. This abbreviation is often used to refer to any generic “psycho ex wife” or at times even more broadly any “psycho ex” regardless of gender or marital status.
Even the readers of the site used such terms to describe their own conflicts. “PEW” is frequently used to generically refer to a “psycho ex wife” or to some other unnamed specific ex-wife that could not be Allison Morelli, unless of course she wants to claim she has been married to dozens or hundreds of the readers and they are all writing about her, too.
The site and its readers also use “PEH” to refer to “psycho ex husband” which can’t be about her. Or can it? If she were to claim she was a man named Alfred in some past life and therefore any references to “PEH” are about her, too, from her actions to date it looks like Judge Gibbons would be convinced by that argument.
The generic “psycho ex” content and discussion included all the kinds of things you’d expect to see discussed about malicious Borderlines, Narcissists, Antisocials, and other personality disorders that are typically seen in sociopaths. These include drug abuse, alcohol abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, manipulation, projection, gaslighting, pathological lying, distortion campaigns, and more. They even discussed at times how these people get to be their malicious selves, often from a history of abuse as children. All of that is very generic and helpful information that doesn’t specifically pertain to Allison Morelli. Some of it may not have been written to have anything to do with her. Yet Judge Gibbons, in her infinite stupidity, sought to silence all of that content, too, because she apparently is unable or unwilling to differentiate between content that is widely and generally applicable and not specific to any one person and content (be it information or misinformation) that has to do with the Morelli dispute in particular.
Unfortunately for the operators of the site and its readers, Judge Gibbons does not seem able to ask basic questions about how an anonymous site naming and identifying nobody but quoting bizarre and abusive emails and describing similar behaviors could be about a person unless that person is also in effect admitting she is behind those words and actions.
Gibbons must also have failed her Constitutional Law classes on the First Amendment, nor does she understand that even if there was some defamatory or harassing statement on the site that this does not justify banning all the content. She evidently can’t comprehend or doesn’t care that roughly 2/3 or more of the material on the site wasn’t even about the PEW character and therefore could not have been about the Morelli dispute, even if Allison wants people to believe she is the PEW character.
Did Gibbons even review the site? By the appearance of the alleged transcripts I’ve seen so far, it looks like she just took Allison’s word for it when she moved to ban the site.
Take Down the Site Or Go To Prison
The judge stated among other things that if the site was not taken down, she would imprison Anthony and take away his kids. Here’s a direct quote from the alleged June 6, 2011 transcript:
Father shall take down that website and shall never on any public media make any reference to the mother at all, nor any reference to the the relationship between mother and children, nor shall he make any reference to his children other than “happy birthday” or other significant school events. The father’s girlfriend shall not be referred to as mother and father shall not in any way interfere with mother’s relationship with her children.
Mother will not consume any alcohol at all and will continue in alcohol treatment.
This matter is continued for a period of four months.
By her words in the alleged transcript, Judge Gibbons indicates that Allison Morelli is an alcoholic. Later you see:
NAME REDACTED: You know, in the course of having custody evaluation, it was discovered that I had developed a drinking problem as a result of gastric bypass surgery that I had in March of ’09. And that after that point, you know, I suffered from addiction transference and, you know, it — I am certainly not going to minimize that today, that of course it impacted the children. But the children saw me intoxicated four times in the course of two years. And I am in treatment. I attend AA meetings.
To date I have not seen anybody disputing the legitimacy of this transcript. There’s also a second alleged transcript of a June 14, 2011 hearing available. I’d like to have some reasonably easy way to quickly authenticate such documents with court records, but apparently the Pennsylvania courts don’t publish such court records online.
The website had a lot to say about the “PEW” character over the years. “PEW” was alleged to be an emotional child abuser, harasser, abusive litigator, perjurer, frequent violator of court orders, and was suspected by Anthony and Misty of suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder.
If Allison Morelli didn’t do such things, then why on earth would she be arguing that the site is about her? And if she did so such things, why on earth would she want the public to hear about it by publicly claiming the site is about her?
If Anthony and Misty believe that PEW behaved so abusively, regardless of who PEW is, those familiar with such destructive situations should be able to understand why they would have been motivated to write anonymously about such conflicts.
Later in the transcript, Gibbons talks about incarcerating the father if he does not follow her orders, apparently including the ones regarding the illegal restrictions on his free speech rights and the illegal orders made regarding his partner’s website:
You better follow it because if you don’t follow it, I will hold you in contempt if you recommend to him not to follow it.
And if he doesn’t follow it, I will incarcerate him. Do you understand?
Anthony Morelli claims that Gibbons made these orders without allowing for a proper hearing. He also claims she doesn’t know the case, either, having less than a month experience dealing with this high conflict case before issuing her illegal orders.
Quoted from Judge Diane E. Gibbons Opinion:
Judge Diane E. Gibbons has drawn a myriad of conclusions over a number of issues without having heard a single word of meaningful testimony, without allowing witnesses, without allowing evidence, without allowing arguments, without allowing objects, etc.
Until Judge Diane E. Gibbons sat at the hearing of June 6th, 2011 – she had not previously presided over a single child custody hearing in the case dating back to the beginning.
One might presume that had she permitted an actual, legal hearing and all that entails, she might have been able to file an informed opinion about many of the issues about which she clearly knows very little.
After reading about Judge Gibbons abusive conduct recently, I’m feeling a bit like an ostrich with its head in the sand. Many of us who have written for this site have been distracted with our own personal family law crises instigated by sociopaths, so we haven’t kept up to date on happenings elsewhere in the online family law community as much as we’d like. We’re late to defend these two people who are being abused by the Pennsylvania courts. But, as the saying goes, it’s better late than never.
Anthony and Misty are still trying to defend their civil rights against abuse by Judge Gibbons via an appeal case in Pennsylvania. They could use your help if you have a few dollars to spare. So far they have raised over $8000 out of the expected $15,000 needed for the appeal.
Many of their readers have donated and/or written testimonials about how The Psycho Ex-Wife helped them. One that I liked in particular is the following reminding US citizens they should not be so quick to give up their free speech rights when the government is violating them:
Mr M and DW
About a year ago a friend pointed me to your blog. It is the single most helpful thing I have ever encountered in my life. At that point I had been subjected to 15 years of trauma in a marriage with a personality disordered wife and for the preceding 12 months had hardly any contact with my two daughters following false accusations of abuse. Despite complete exoneration in the criminal courts the family court system refused to acknowledge my innocence and consequently denied me access to my children and property.
I was caught in a living hell that no one around me could begin to comprehend.
PEW.com has helped me to save my family. I read and learned that I was not alone, that others had and were experiencing the same issues around the world. The combined advice and experiences that the blog brings together gave me hope and way forward.
I now have good access to my children, my ex wife is under medical observation and the court system acknowledges the abuses she perpetrated against our children and is working to assist us.
Without PEW.com I would not have found a path out of this darkness and two young girls would have remained in the sole care of an abusive mother, shielded by the family courts.
It is vital that the blog remains freely available. I live in a country where we have no constitutional right to free speech. Do not allow the rights you have in the USA to be chipped away, it is too precious and I am grateful that in this modern age people across the world can also benefit from the wisdom of your founding fathers.
They and the many people they helped could also use some moral support, too, to counter the many ignorant critics who don’t understand what it is like to be abused by the sociopath and the government for years. And that’s what I aim to do in the rest of the article.
Courts Aid Sociopathic Abusers
Regardless of who is telling the truth in the Morelli case, it is clear that much of the generic content on the The Psycho Ex Wife website applies to a vast number of cases involving people who behave as sociopaths in their efforts to harm the other parent using the children. Whether any of it applies to Allison Morelli or not, I don’t know, but whatever the case may be it is truly bizarre given what the site says about the anonymous PEW character that she claims the site was written about her.
I am going to write about the controversy over The Psycho Ex Wife based upon what I’ve seen of the site myself, before it was illegally silenced, and what I was able to read in archives I located maintained by others. Also, my opinions consider the plentiful horrific experiences of those I’ve met over the years who have been faced with the malevolent destruction caused by a sociopathic ex.
Many of the writers in mainstream media have failed to grasp this context completely. It is as if they object to Adolf Hitler as being described as a “bloodthirsty, manipulative, genocidal maniac” as nasty, denigrating, and defamatory writing that should not be allowed because they haven’t met anybody like him and don’t believe he could have existed.
Well, let me tell you, just like Hitler did exist, sociopaths do also exist. Even if you think you don’t know any, you probably know one or more. Sometimes even a neighbor could be one. (See the excellent book The Sociopath Next Door for more information.) Just like a blond-haired blue-eyed German might not appreciate how evil Hitler was, you simply don’t realize how evil sociopaths are because you are lucky enough to not be one of their targets. People who have been targeted by a sociopathic ex are put through the ringer for years, even decades, as the world around them often blames them for the abuse and helps the sociopath inflict more abuse.
The typical sociopath in a family law dispute pathologically perjures and lies to the detriment of the children and target parent and that parents’ immediate and extended family. He or she gains allies via the lies and often uses those allies to aid in the abuse. Make no mistake, these are dangerous people who do far more damage than mere insults could ever do. Below, I describe some of their common tactics.
False Law Enforcement Reports
Typically a sociopathic ex files numerous false and malicious reports with CPS and police agencies ranging from physical to sexual child abuse and even poisoning the children. The sociopath often induces doctors, psychologists, therapists, and schools to file false reports by lying to them.
Even in what should be easy cases, such as when false poisoning allegations end up with toxicology screens finding nothing, that doesn’t stop the sociopaths from lying again and getting the same government-aided harassment. Typically the falsely accused parent is banned from contact with the children or forced into expensive and intrinsically abusive supervised visitation situations that can last for months or longer while the “investigation” proceeds at a glacial pace.
Law Violations Including Perjury
Sociopaths violate restraining orders, steal property, hide financial records, defame and slander and libel in their communities, churches, and workplaces. If you simply sample ten typical people harassed like this, I’d estimate that the sociopaths attacking them may have manipulated hundreds of “upstanding people” such as church ministers, police officers, psychologists, doctors, childcare providers, teachers, and more to participate in years of unrelenting harassment, emotional child abuse, and abusive aggression.
It’s common for the sociopath to suborn perjury out of these “upstanding people.” You can find court cases littered with provable lies by “good church people” and “responsible teachers” who are so mind-numbingly stupid that they cannot figure out they are being played like puppets.
And then there are the really sick and evil allies, the disreputable or even disbarred attorneys and the sociopath’s truly disturbed friends who are willing to lie even when they know full well what they are saying is not true because they were there. You see, sociopaths often gang up on their victims. And courts are stupid enough to think the truth is a popularity contest and refuse to do anything to punish people who can be proven to have perjured or suborned perjury. As a result, the sociopath always has the advantage in family law court.
Impact on Kids and Target Parents
The impact is usually devastating. It is unusual for there to be less then several tens of thousands of dollars and several years of wasteful and abusive litigation. Extreme cases run up tabs of millions of dollars of legal bills spanning decades, most of it born by the families often by emptying the children’s college savings, selling the parents’ home(s), and borrowing from relatives. Often there is a substantial cost to taxpayers, too, as hundreds or thousands of hours of time from law enforcement agencies is used to investigate false allegations. But the financial damages related to litigation are simply the most easily quantified loss.
The kids are often emotional wrecks from being lied to and manipulated, even if they do not succumb to full-bore parental alienation. Countering the damage inflicted by a sociopathic parent is difficult in the extreme. The more time they have with the kids, the more they damage them. Anything less than about 40% to 50% time with the healthier parent is a recipe for life-long damage to these children. But it’s common for the sociopath to have primary or even sole custody of the kids so they can damage the kids all they like.
Then there’s job loss caused by the harassment. At any moment you may have cops at your office or home searching you and maybe arresting you over yet another false allegation. At any moment, your kids may be detained by CPS and interrogated again over some false abuse allegation. How can you expect to focus on work when your family and you are being abused? Especially after you have probably been kicked out of your home on false allegations and may be living on a friend’s couch because you are too poor to afford anything better.
Then there are forced relocations. It’s dangerous to live in proximity to one of these sociopaths, much safer to live hundreds of miles away. Some have relocated across the country to get away from their abusers as the courts refuse to protect them. But that increases the odds of never seeing your kids again, at least until they are adults, so many people are unwilling to do that even though they know even living in the same state as a sociopath is very risky.
There’s the loss of friends and sometimes even family members who buy into the sociopath’s convincing defamation or because of forced relocations. Sociopaths excel at turning people into their accomplices and destroying the support systems of their victims.
Threats of criminal prosecution over false allegations can sap your energy and keep you so wound up that you can’t even sleep, often leading to chronic depression, anxiety, and other health problems that are worsened by the endless drain on money as the courts rape and pillage the family for all its worth. And usually the sociopath doesn’t pay for much of this as she or he is often able get the government to fund her or his campaign of terror at taxpayer expense.
Then there’s actual criminal prosecution instigated by judges who are tyrants and enemies of the law. For example, the ex won’t let you see or talk with your kids in violation of court orders, and after months of this you make the mistake of calling her a “bitch” or him a “bastard” in email for refusing to allow contact. And then the court attacks the person who wrote the insulting email, not the person who is violating the court orders and harming the children involved.
In some particularly hellish family court systems, in response to such an email you might find yourself slapped with a restraining order and prosecuted for violating it even though it was never served on you and such emails are a tame nonviolent response to the blatantly illegal and/or abusive conduct of an ex. Such courts fail to acknowledge cause-and-effect and treat the aggrieved party as a criminal and the abusive party as a victim.
Cole Stuart is a father and activist attorney apparently targeted by the abusive family law courts of San Diego, California, for founding the California Coalition for Families and Children and protesting against family court abuse. He reports that his ex wouldn’t let him have contact with their child going on a year. He got fed up and called his ex Lynn Stuart (a TV news reporter in San Diego) names in email protesting what he says she was doing to interfere with contact with their child, allegedly against court orders. Then the courts used it as an excuse to persecute him and harass CCFC group members who were peacefully protesting against the abusive courts.
Many suffer from devastating mental and physical ailments caused by the years of stress and require expensive chronic medical and mental health care. Plus there’s the matter of lost wages as they can’t work. The economic cost of the abuse committed by sociopaths and aided by courts is possibly in the tens or hundreds of billions every year in the US alone.
Almost all targets of abuse by a sociopathic ex at one time or another suffer from being banned from talking with their kids on the telephone, or worse not seeing their kids at all for months or years due to false allegations, violations of court orders, and more.
And for those who still saw their kids after spending years and fortunes defending against the sociopaths, even then some of the kids slip away into the abyss of parental alienation as they buy into the emotional manipulations and lies of the sociopathic parents who teach them to mindlessly hate. They learn to obey their abuser and stay away from their healthier parent or else their abuser will make them suffer even more than usual.
Government Aids and Abets Abuse
The government is often the chief ally of the sociopathic abuser. They are quick to remove kids from good parents based upon false allegations. They are slow to investigate, endlessly delaying in court and claiming they need more time and hiding that they haven’t a shred of evidence of the allegations. They sometimes even hide evidence and findings that clear the falsely accused parent.
The police, DA, and courts virtually never act to prosecute or punish the false accuser or hold him or her accountable in any way. They seldom do anything to punish malicious violations of court orders. It’s almost unheard of for them to issue a protective order to put a stop to the endless filings of false CPS and police reports used to manipulate law enforcement to do much of the harassment on the behalf of the sociopath.
All of this creates the distinct appearance that helping sociopaths functions as a jobs programs for the government and its “professional” friends (lawyers, psychologists, etc.) Let a sociopath run lose unrestrained and you keep the wheels of abuse turning. Everybody in this corrupt system gets a cut of the victimized families’ assets plus the Federal funds that are paid out for “providing services” to “help children” despite the malicious and harassing allegations being false. If the aim was really to help children, the sociopaths should at a minimum be spending the time they don’t have with the kids in a psychiatric prison. Clearly, the aim of this system is NOT to help children, it is to help themselves to whatever financial assets the family has including their home(s), savings, and income.
A sociopath committing such abuses over many months or longer deserves to be publicly exposed when the courts fail to stop the abuse. When courts prevent this and even block the discussion of sociopathic behaviors as the abusive Gibbons is doing, they directly aid in the destruction of the sociopath’s victims because they make it far easier for the sociopath to build a community of accomplices to the abuse in the children’s schools, clubs, churches or other religious organizations, and neighborhoods.
The Ignorant Trash The Psycho Ex-Wife
Many of us writing for family law sites (including this one) as well as many of our readers have previously read the The Psycho Ex-Wife in the past and found that it was insightful as to the behaviors of the sociopath in a divorce and child custody battle. The material posted also showed how ignorant and incapable the courts are at upholding the law, preventing child abuse and harassment, and protecting the victims of sociopathic abuse.
Reviewing the discussion on other sites, it’s clear that many of the commenters, bloggers, and mainstream media personalities (Matt Lauer of the Today Show is major offender here) simply are entirely ignorant when it comes to the challenges posed by a person who behaves as a sociopath. These naive people’s opinions are largely based upon a total misconception that it takes two to fight and that the government will usually do something to protect people from being viciously abused and harassed for years. Neither are true statements and anybody who has suffered from the abuse inflicted by a sociopath in a divorce or child custody battle knows this.
Family law courts routinely violate the law. False allegations are given the weight of proven facts until proven otherwise. Access to evidence is restricted, evidence is tampered, perjurers are everywhere and the perjurers include government employees as evidenced by grand jury investigations of CPS. The sociopath knows how to manipulate all of these people for maximum harm. Frankly, I am surprised there are not more murders in these conflicts as it is clear the abuse is intolerable and the courts seldom do anything but encourage it.
Plausible Behaviors For Sociopaths
The content of the The Psycho Ex-Wife was very plausible in terms of the behaviors it discussed about Borderline Personality Disorder, the contributions of a biased and corrupt family law courts in harming people wrongly, and the impact on the kids, new partners, and extended family.
Some of the writing was demeaningly flowery (such as comparison of the psycho ex-wife with “Jabba the Hut”), probably for entertainment value. The site’s writers mentioned that the writing style was meant to attract readers in similar situations. But it was anonymous, and certainly many other people have been even more demeaningly extreme without a court ruling they cannot do so.
To be clear, I don’t know Anthony, Misty, or Allison and have never talked with any of them. I have no idea really of what the truth about their situation is and I’m not claiming to know who out of them is right or wrong. In all likelihood, the courts probably have little understanding of this conflict, either, yet the latest judge is willing to act and assign blame apparently without considering the full picture including how court actions including unwarranted and illegal censorship are now harming people who had no knowledge of or participation in the Morelli case.
Anybody who has dealt with a sociopath and the courts knows that even after months or years of litigation the courts usually don’t have a full understanding and frequently have absolutely no clue of the truth. It’s either that or the judges and court employees simply don’t care about the truth as they pursue their personal political agendas or work to enrich their lawyer friends by dragging out simple matters into years-long battles.
Steps Were Taken To Hide Identities
From what I and others have written elsewhere above how it is right to expose sociopaths who won’t stop, you might think that PEW was exposed by name. But that’s not the case here.
From past reading of the site and reviewing a site archive, it is clear that the writers were avoiding naming names and even hiding their location. Most of their articles don’t even mention the PEW character.
Prior to reading about the court orders to shut down the site, nobody I’ve discussed the site with had any clue where they might have been located, nor any idea of the actual names of the people involved.
This makes it clear the intent was not to harass PEW.
So how did PEW find out about the site? Allison Morelli claims to be “PEW” and she claims the kids told her about the website. Anthony claims that is not true and that PEW showed them the site. Which is true? I certainly don’t know.
But I would point out that computer account hacking, malware, and spyware are common tools for sociopaths or people who behave like them. That means there are a lot of ways, including illegal ways, that such a site could be discovered.
For all we know, somebody could have planted spyware on a USB memory stick that traveled with the kids and when they went to use their father’s computer then it was infected and this was used to track his computer usage and report it to others. Or somebody could have found the site then anonymously emailed the kids something that told them about the site, knowing it would get out and could be misportrayed as it has been as being a site dedicated to attacking a single person when it was not.
Maybe nobody but the parties involved know what really happened. Given the propensity of sociopaths to lie in court, probably the court will never know what actually happened despite how it may delude itself otherwise.
If there was something truly inaccurate and damaging to the reputation of somebody that was posted on The Psycho Ex-Wife, perhaps there would be a legal basis to order that untrue material to be removed. But even then, wholesale ordering the entire site to be shut down would be wrong as much of the material on the site had nothing directly to do with the operators or the “psycho ex wife”.
To my knowledge, there has been no legal finding that anything written on the site was defamatory or untrue. Some of the material consisted of sanitized (names and identifying information removed) repostings of emails apparently between Anthony and Allison, if you believe Allison’s claim that she is “PEW”. There have been no reports of defamation law suits filed.
Whatever the full story is behind the emails quoted and attributed to PEW, the text did make her appear to be a very troubled person. But certainly many of the details of scenarios such as blocking child custody exchanges were nothing unique. Almost all of us dealing with sociopaths have seen such tactics. Some of the dates for child custody exchanges might have been somewhat unique, but even that’s hard to say given that there are millions of children of divorce being exchanged and undoubtedly thousands with similar schedules.
So to me, for Allison to be be so sure that PEW is her then it seems likely that those emails and/or behaviors described are substantially similar to hers. Otherwise, how would she know it was about her as there were no names or locations mentioned?
What a lot of people wonder, myself included, is why she would want to promulgate the idea the site is about her in the first place? If she didn’t write such emails or do the things described, then how was the site about her? And if she did, then isn’t this a serious indictment of her own behaviors and words?
This site wasn’t started to put PEW down. If we wanted to do that, we would have responded to each and every one of her disgusting emails, text messages, and phone calls. We would have sent this site, with her readily identified, to everyone at her work, her family, her friends, everyone. We didn’t do that and we certainly didn’t tell her about this site. It’s not about her. It’s not about our alleged hatred of her. This site is about going through a divorce with a psycho ex-wife and what we must do in order to keep her out of our lives. It’s to let others know they are not alone, and our hope to teach them how to handle their own situation better. In that regard, we want to keep this site focused on telling our story and what we’ve learned (and continue to learn) without interacting with PEW. We have no need to interact with her.
Examples of PEW’s Alleged Abuse Against the Kids
That article about PEW’s discovery of the PEW website also pointed out the behaviors PEW engaged in towards the kids, including showing the kids the website and playing the victim to them. Personally I think that the claims the kids are somehow disturbed by the website is one of the weaker cases of “abuse” and that Gibbons is nuts if she is mostly focused on that issue. Many of the other things on the following list sound like child endangerment and emotional abuse. Especially concerning to me are the allegations of having an out-of-control alcoholic relative living with them.
PEW – Let me spell a few things out for you. You are an abuser. You are abusive to everyone in your life. LM never abused you. A woman who has been abused for 10-years doesn’t contact her abuser 21-times in a single day. She doesn’t ask him to come back to her once she finally got free and is “happier than ever.” She doesn’t come to a website that he writes and try to engage him. Only someone who has no fear of someone does this. Someone who was truly abused wants nothing to do with their abuser.
- Calling CPS with false abuse allegations and making your own children go through interrogations is ABUSE
- Alienating your kids and telling them “I will drag your ass to court and make you choose me” is ABUSE
- Lying to them about their stepmother and how she calls you up all the time and calls you names is ABUSE
- Telling the kids not to tell anyone when PP gets drunk and falls down the steps, scaring the hell out of them as they thought she was dead – is ABUSE
- Having PP move-in when she is so clearly out of control is dangerous to the children, and exposing them to that kind of situation is ABUSE
- Lying to them about their father and how he abandoned them and abused you is ABUSE
- Alienating your kids by withholding phone calls and visits from their father is ABUSE
- Telling the children about this website is ABUSE
- The shit you allow your father to do to them and teach them is ABUSE
It’s common for the actual abuser to play victim and torment the target parent by unwanted contact, stalking, cyberstalking, telling the children lies, etc. From the above list, such things are included in what Anthony and Misty think PEW is doing. (And again I wonder: if one isn’t doing any of these things, then how is the quoted text about her?)
If the site is truly harming the kids, then why is the focus on the site and not on the person who allegedly showed the site to them and allegedly doesn’t do anything to block it?
Quoted from Shutting Down ThePsychoExWife.Com:
This brings us to the children. How can the children be protected from this website? The fact is, the children never have to know about this website. However, they do. And do you know why the children know about this website? The children are aware of the existence of this website because PEW, in her infinite thoughtlessness (particularly when it comes to protecting the children from the madness she creates) – told them about it. That’s right, folks. PEW made the unilateral decision to tell the children about a site that details the horror of the situation that is horrible enough because they live it. I would say something like, “…that’s a decision she’ll have to live with for the rest of her life…” but that would imply that she gives a shit or understands what a terrible choice that was, all in the name of her selfishness and attempts to leverage control over whether or not this site continues to exist, and who the children will “choose” when she forces them to go to court. As I’ve said many times before, PEW will not hesitate to throw the children under the bus if it means she can go on the offensive about some nonsensical bullshit. She believes the site harms them, and she tells them about it so that they are harmed and she has something to bitch about. Sick.
PEW won’t take the simplest steps to protect the children from anything, which was exemplified when S1 discovered internet porn. Despite my recommendations which included the easiest fixes such as… password protect the computer so that they cannot login when she is not available… block certain sites via the browser tools so that the sites seemingly don’t exist… actually supervising the kids on the PC… and invest in child safety protective software of which there are many good ones available… she’s done NONE of them. Worse – she actually goes out of her way to tell them about it.
Even today, she still has taken no steps to ensure that the children are protected from “objectionable websites” – of which thepsychoexwife.com must certainly be one. Worse, her failure to take the minimum steps necessary combined with the fact that she tells them (with her spin, no doubt) about certain content – is all about PEW. The fact that she can’t stop herself from stalking the site (and probably when the boys are in proximity) means that the only person exposing the children to such “horror” – is PEW. She’s not that stupid. She does this with a purpose. Somewhere in that twisted brain of hers, she believes that the children will be convinced that my documentation of our experiences is more of a terrible “crime” than the fact that she actually puts us through everything that has been documented. That’s logical only from a PEW standpoint. Writing about her behaviors is unconscionable. Her actual behaviors… well… nevermind all that. Only in the mind of a PEW.
They claim that PEW won’t even bother to take steps to keep the kids from accessing porno sites once they found them. If that’s true, should that be the fault of the porno sites and they should be shut down because of it? (Not that I approve of porn, I’m just pointing out that’s the same twisted reasoning Gibbons is using.) Or is it more the fault of PEW?
Furthermore, if the focus is on the kids not reading it, then why not implement a technological solution such as blacklisting the IP addresses for PEW’s home and the children’s school(s) and using parental web surfing control software on the children’s computers? Of course it’s possible to get around this by some means, but the kids probably don’t know that or wouldn’t be sufficiently motivated to do so.
What Judge Gibbons has done is like saying that since some parents don’t like Huck Finn since it contains some racial stereotypes, all copies of it should be burned so nobody can read it. Such actions are overly broad, unreasonable, unconstitutional, destructive, and harmful to people who are not even involved in the case.
Violation of Due Process Law
The judge allowed no testimony or defense to explain anything about the website. This violated the father’s right to due process. When a court makes orders with no opportunity to explain or dispute and/or blocks access to relevant evidence, it is flagrantly violating many important principles of law.
Judge Gibbons apparently does not care about the law or due process. As such, she has no place on the bench. Personally, I hope this case leads to her removal from the bench via whatever processes are available in Pennsylvania.
Unfortunately, Pennsylvania is a corrupt state in which judicial abuse against children and judicial misconduct and felony crime is rampant and usually ignored by the “professionals” such as other judges, court employees, and police for years. Stories like those plus Ben Vonderheide’s crusade against child abuse for profit in Pennsylvania has made it clear that the government in that state views children as pawns to be used and abused for its own profit. So there’s probably not much chance of tyrant Gibbons being drawn and quartered by the government for her abuses. The best hope rests with the public holding her accountable for her abhorrent conduct.
Court Made Illegal Orders Against Non-Party To Case
Misty Weaver-Ostinato was not a party to the case. Yet Judge Gibbons made orders affecting her website / business without any due process for her. This is clearly a violation of the US Constitution’s 14th Amendment and probably many other laws, too.
“Practicing Without A License” Complaints
Several commenters have ranted about how the “custody coaching” services allegedly offered by Misty and/or Anthony is somehow “practicing law” or “practicing psychology” without a license.
There are many people who provide such services all across the US without having such licenses and they make it clear they are not lawyers and are not psychologists. Some of these people are actually well-known in their communities and get a lot of referrals from the courts. Many of them have been through hell and back based upon their own experiences and have something valuable to offer to clients. They shouldn’t need licenses to share their experience and advice so long as they make it clear they are not lawyers and are not psychologists. And in fact as part of their disclaimer, whomever is running the site writes:
MrCustodyCoach.com™ is not an attorney, psychologist, counselor, nor therapist. The information provided or given, by MrCustodyCoach.com™ or any other members of MrCustodyCoach.com™, via telephone, Internet, e-mail, instant messenger, FAX, in-person or by any other means is provided solely for informational purposes only, and should not be construed as legal advice, counseling, nor therapy. IF YOU ARE SEEKING LEGAL ADVICE, PLEASE CONSULT WITH A LICENSED ATTORNEY IN YOUR JURISDICTION.
What we’ve collectively noticed is many of the people who rant about “practicing without a license” issues are often the sociopaths in the mix. They don’t like what somebody has said about them or a sociopath who behaves like them, no matter how true. So they will find any way they can to attack and harm that person.
Frankly licenses don’t get in the way of their attacks, either. They file malicious licensing board complaints with little or no basis in fact to get revenge even on those who are licensed simply because they recited facts and opinions that the sociopath did not like. This happens often enough that it would dilute the ability of any licensing board to deal with the legitimate complaints. Worse, however, is that many licensing boards are incapable of doing their jobs and routinely relicense people who have engaged in behaviors such as sex with their clients while they threaten to revoke the licenses of practitioners whose billing service messed up a bill sent to an insurance company. With such inept and overloaded licensing boards, it is all too easy for the therapist being harassed by a sociopath to suffer significant damages.
Even more commenters have whined about how Anthony is a misogynist. Reportedly he doesn’t even own the website, his female partner Misty does. How plausible is it that she would be anti-female herself? And clearly many of the readers and supporters of the site are self-identified as women and write as if they are women, too.
Maybe they should have called the site “The Psycho Ex” and made it clear from the start that the sociopath can be a woman or a man. But not doing so does not mean they are misogynists.
On the contrary, they posted several articles with titles including “Psycho Ex-Husband” such as Wise Old Sayings Redefined for a Psycho Ex-Wife or Psycho Ex-Husband. They clearly understand that not all the psycho ex’s are female.
One Partially Redeeming Point of Gibbons
The sorts of things Gibbons had to say in the transcripts that I reviewed which sounded reasonable were to encourage parents to stop the conflict. That might be applicable to as much as 80% to 90% of divorces. But in a case with years of allegations of false law enforcement reports, parental alienation, breaking-and-entering, alcohol and/or drug abuse, emotional abuse of the kids, child endangerment involving alcohol abuse, etc. as this one features, it is totally naive for her to say this. It frankly makes her appear to be totally out of touch with reality, sort of the judicial equivalent to an imbecile walking up into the midst of a warring group of religious fanatics and wondering “Why can’t we all just get along?”
As I said, I don’t know the parties involved. But I do know plenty of others who have been afflicted by sociopathic abuse. Typically the victims tried to be nice and reasonable only to see themselves abused by some combination of being run out of their homes on false allegations, defamed throughout their communities, attacked on the Internet via defamation on websites and threats by email, banned from seeing their kids or being put in supervised visitation based upon lies, and forced to spend most of their incomes if not their life savings just trying to defend against it all.
A person put in that situation by a court that won’t life a finger to stop the abuse has every right to discuss the abuses publicly. The court has failed to do its job. There has to be some other alternative than to just silently suffer for years.
What Anthony and Misty did was far better than many other alternatives. Their creation helped a lot of other people being abused by sociopathic ex-spouses and abusive courts. Contrary to the propaganda espoused by Allison and the inaccurate statements by Gibbons, the site wasn’t about attacking Allison. Anthony’s and Misty’s dislike for her alleged behaviors might have been the inspiration for the site, but bad situations are often the inspiration for people to find something constructive they can do based upon what they have learned through a miserable experience.
Allison is so clearly far from an innocent victim in this case, any way you look at it. If PEW is not Allison, then Allison is severely misrepresenting the whole situation by claiming she is. And if the PEW character is even a somewhat accurate representation of Allison’s behavior, then she’s no innocent victim, either. She and the courts behave as if the site is about her so they can pummel Anthony while doing nothing about the harmful behaviors described. It’s nonsensical in the extreme.
I contend that quite often courts don’t want there to be any other alternatives but conflict. Courts clearly profit from abuse and conflict and want them to continue. After all, if the abuse stops, the conflict would stop, and therefore the court would slow down. When a judge limits a falsely accused parent’s rights and encourage such abuse to continue by failing to punish false accusers, then the judge can create the false impression that he or she cares about children while fanning the flames of the conflict for the job security and profit of those in the family law industry.
Public Defense Against Defamation
Many targets of sociopaths are people who are being defamed extensively with lies claiming they are adulterers, child sex offenders, wife beaters, drunks, drug abusers, pornographers, and more. Somebody who is being defamed should have a right to defend themselves with facts and reasoned opinions. That should apply whether the defamation is on the Internet or in the great defamation gossip mills that Borderlines and other sociopaths create in their churches, schools, and communities.
And when somebody is being harassed with an endless stream of false reports to law enforcement agencies, they should also have a right to defend themselves. Expecting them to file a lawsuit in the very same abusive courts that do nothing when many of these people are being defamed, harassed, and litigated into bankruptcy is completely ridiculous.
If they can’t talk honestly and openly about their plight publicly to try to put a stop to the harassment, what else are they supposed to do? Buy a gun and kill the harasser, knowing that they can make a good case for mental cruelty and abuse causing them temporary insanity? Oh, wait, that smells like what a sociopath would do.
What many family law courts are doing today is to help the defamer / harasser and to punish anybody who tries to defend themselves against defamation and false reports to law enforcement agencies. We see that time and again. Mom (or Dad) falsely says Dad (or Mom) is a drunk, physically violent, and molests the kids to gain sympathy and supporters and instant wins in court. She (or he) then passes those lies around verbally everywhere she (or he) can. She (or he) files many false police reports so she (or he) can pass them out like candy to “prove” the lies are true to the unsuspecting fools who swallow up the sociopath’s lies and buy into the false victim story. Pretty soon the target has trouble finding a job and can’t talk with anybody involved with his (or her) kids without being treated like a criminal. It’s clear that the defamation and malicious manipulation of the government is causing this, and doing nothing is not going to help. It just lets the abuser make the problem worse. And it will get worse. These people even go after your family members such as your new spouse, parents, siblings, etc.
After years of this damage spreading, the victim of the defamation puts up a website refuting it. Knowing that it has spread everywhere, there is no way to put a stop to it by talking to individuals because it has spread to even people he or she has never met. The court doesn’t help because even after being fully aware of false allegations and hearing about how the defamation is causing problems, the judge won’t do a thing about it.
So when the sociopath discovers the website, the sociopath goes running to the court and claims she (or he) is being harassed. Who does the court punish? The victim. Who does the court help? The defamer. And that happens fairly consistently without many exceptions.
Systematically bad-mouthing and defaming a person verbally throughout the community is OK by the standard these judges use, but posting a defense or explanation of what is really happening on a website is not acceptable even when it is true.
It boggles me as to how somebody can claim the site is about her, even though nobody was ever named or identified in any way on the site, and then the same somebody also tries to imply or claim she didn’t do the things described or write those emails, either. So tell me, how can it be about her if she is neither named nor did she write the emails nor did she do the actions described on the site?
Personally I doubt that this Morelli case is the exception to this general pattern. That’s based in part upon how Anthony (Mister M) and Misty (DW) showed great restraint trying to keep the site as anonymous as they did and it was clearly about more than just setting the record straight. And it is also based upon how it makes no sense that somebody can claim victimhood by saying the identity-free site is about her and then claim innocence by saying it doesn’t describe her accurately.
Sociopaths Hate Being Exposed
Sociopaths hate to be exposed publicly. They know that most people they manipulate will not bother to talk with the falsely accused and harassed person and will just side with the emotionally convincing lies they spew absent other information to the contrary. As Dr. Tara Palmatier explains about the PEW case:
One of the things abusive bullies, high-conflict people (HCP) — whatever you want to refer to them as — fear most is exposure. They will fight tooth and nail against having their misbehavior exposed. These types equally fear the loss of control. PEW probably represents both fears for Ms Morelli; exposure and loss of control.
By this reasoning, when Allison Morelli learned about the site, she of course wanted to shut it down. The method she picked was to claim to the court that she was a victim of harassment by claiming the site is about her.
Judging by the site’s reports of PEW’s actions, PEW had been allegedly defaming the authors for years using their names in false reports to police, CPS, and others. Yet by all accounts I’ve seen and from my own personal review, he wrote anonymously and didn’t name her.
So how can she be a victim of harassment when she is not named? If you reason she can be because the site describes her actions and writings, then how can one not see that those actions and writings are unreasonable and even abusive on their face?
It looks for all the world like the roles of victim and abuser are being twisted around via manipulation and distortion. Such behavior patterns are the typical projection and distortion that you see coming from sociopaths and people with personality disorders.
Palmatier goes on to point out that it is PEW’s own fault if her kids are upset about the PEW website:
The only reason PEW is no longer anonymous and that people following this story know that Allison Morelli is PEW is because Ms Morelli, in what appears to be her blind desire to control her ex and portray herself as “the victim,” told anyone and everyone who would listen, that she is PEW — including her own children, in whose best interests she claims to be acting.
Ms Morelli brought her complaint regarding PEW to Judge Gibbons because she alleges the children are hurt by the existence of the website — blithely ignoring the fact that the only reason their children know about PEW is because she, their mother, told them about it.
If the existence of PEW hurts the children and the only reason the children know about PEW is because Ms Morelli told them, then it is Ms Morelli who is hurting the children.
Why would she tell their children about PEW if she was so concerned for their welfare?
Why Naming Names Can Be Good
In a normal divorce, I agree that it is reasonable to not write about the ex on the Internet other than anonymously. Despite this case being far worse than a normal divorce, anonymous writing is what Anthony and Misty did.
However, I believe it’s fair game to name the judges and other legal professionals involved in abuses and failure to protect the actual victims.
By reports of her actions to date, Gibbons has engaged in abuse of discretion and outright violations of basic civil rights laws. She should be held accountable. There is no way to hold a judge accountable without names. So she should be named and what she did should be publicized so the citizens of Bucks County can eliminate her from the judiciary as they should.
But if Anthony (Mister M) and Misty (DW) had named Gibbons and other asleep-at-the-wheel family law judges who they believe screwed up their lives via failure to follow the law and put in place protection mechanisms that would help reduce the conflict and stop the abuse, it’s my observation that the courts probably would have targeted them for even more abuse. This is what we’ve seen happen in many other cases. Publicly cite abuse by a judge and the judge will violate the law to inflict even more harm. File a proper legal complaint against the judge, then the judge will refuse to recuse and proceed to persecute any way she or he can, even when that persecution involves judicial abuse of the children.
Today’s family court is not about the best interests of children. It is not about the law. It is about pure unadulterated greed, maliciousness, and outright evil. The judges are for the most part like little miniature devils, sitting up there claiming to be Gods in their courtrooms and violating people’s rights, helping abusers, and all the while claiming this is somehow in the children’s “best interests” to be subjected to endless violations of custody exchange rules, being emotionally manipulated to not want to spent time with their better parent who isn’t trying to alienate or manipulate them, being interrogated over yet another false child abuse allegation, etc.
In the end, even the best courts have usually entirely failed to do their jobs in most high conflict divorces. When they do get it right, it is so late that it can never undo the years of emotional torture inflicted upon the children and better parent. And the courts virtually never do anything to even try to repair the hundreds of thousands of dollars of damage done to the victims of the sociopath.
Family courts in the US are a total failure. Gibbons and judges like her are directly responsible for these failures. They lack the knowledge and integrity to do their jobs competently. And this problem is so widespread that frankly I believe that it is time for the family law industry to be shut down. Family law courts do not provide a valuable service, on the contrary they are directly responsible for a huge amount of damage and waste of taxpayer money not just in court but throughout government as law enforcement, CPS, social services, etc. are all mobilized to deal with the failure of the family court to put a stop to the perjury, false allegations, and harassment and how it more often than not rewards the abuser and persecutes the children and target parent.
Family law courts should not be able to deviate from 50/50 custody barring felony level criminal conviction of something directly related to the physical safety of the children or repeated convictions for filing false reports with law enforcement as a means of harassment. And the courts and DA have to start prosecuting perjurers and false reporters and publicly disclosing their crimes to put a stop to the abuse. Their failure to do so is a major reason why the problems today are so bad.
Short of such changes, I don’t think the situation is going to improve. Sociopaths know how to game the system. The courts and their friends benefit from their games and so are willing accomplices. And usually it is children and the party who is heavily abused by the sociopath who are most abused by the court.
Among the few allies most families have against the hell on earth created by sociopaths and family law courts is websites such as The Psycho Ex Wife that help them understand they are not alone, the sociopath may be bizarre and evil but there are methods that can help such as low-contact/zero-contact, and offer help for figuring out what to do when the next attack of lies and manipulations comes as it most surely will.
Gibbons has done more than just violate the law and people’s civil rights. She has acted to harm many thousands of people who benefited from The Psycho Ex Wife who had no idea who Allison Morelli is until after she started her weird claims the site is about her to portray herself as a victim. They knew very well that the site’s PEW character behaved much like the sociopath in their lives and so they welcomed the opportunity to read and discuss such problems with others having similar experiences. Now these people have one less place to turn for help dealing with their miserable situations, thanks to Allison Morelli and Judge Gibbons.
What You Can Do
If you’re disturbed by the abusive conduct of Gibbons and the implications it has for free speech rights and the rights of litigants abused by a sociopath and the courts, please take action.
You could write, call, or fax to complain. Here’s the contact information:
You can donate to the appeal case.
If you live in Bucks County, you could be sure to vote against Gibbons in the next election or participate in a recall drive to remove her from the bench.
And you can pass along this article or others like it to raise awareness of the abusive conduct of family law courts and Judge Gibbons in particular.
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