Male Domestic Violence Victims Suffer from Wrongful Gender BiasWritten by: Cameron Print This Article
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Statistics from many studies in the last few decades show that domestic violence is not a gender issue. Harvard Medical School and the US Centers for Disease Control studied 11,000 men and women ages 18-28 and found 24% of heterosexual relationships have had violence in them. Half of these relationships experience reciprocal violence, meaning that both partners have physically assaulted each other. Of the other half, women committed more than 70% of the non-reciprocal violence and were more likely to hit first in the reciprocal violence. Both sexes suffered significant injuries.
Domestic violence is typically an issue of control and learned abusive behaviors stemming from childhood. Nobody deserves to be abused, but contrary to popular misinformed opinion, it is clear that both genders are often responsible for abuse. Yet men continue to be wrongly blamed as nearly always being the abusers.
The result of this bias is that domestic violence problems do not get resolved. The false feminist fringe’s male-bashing propaganda seems to claim that the only good man is a dead man, or perhaps one who obeys and subordinates himself to a dominant woman. It turns out that physical violence often results from attempts to wrongly control another person. While abusers certainly use physical violence to control, victims also use it to resist control. Children in the home suffer and may learn to become abusers themselves, and these future abusers are likely to attack both genders.
Police seldom believe male victims of DV. They often allow the female perps to go right on abusing. It’s not uncommon for them to arrest the male victim because they refuse to believe that women can be violent. Some police departments even have “must arrest someone” orders for DV calls, so if the cops can’t figure out what happened, by default they arrest the man.
The level of damage being done in the few cases of DV prosecuted against female perps can be astounding, as the case of Ian McNicholl shows:
Ian McNicholl, 47, has painful memories to remind him of the terror he endured when he found himself a male victim of domestic violence.
His then fiancee, Michelle Williamson, punched him in the face several times, stubbed out cigarettes on his body, lashed him with a vacuum cleaner tube, hit him with a metal bar and a hammer and even poured boiling water on to his lap. That at 6ft he was almost a foot taller than her made no difference. He still has burn marks on his left shoulder from when she used steam from an iron on him. Williamson, 35, is now serving a seven-year jail sentence for causing both actual and grievous bodily harm. During the trial last year McNicholl told the court that, during more than a year of attacks and intimidation, he had lost his job, home and self-respect. He had been too scared to go to the police and had considered suicide. She was only arrested after two neighbours saw her punch him.
Sentencing her at Grimsby crown court last year, judge John Reddihough told Williamson: “Over the period of time you were with him you destroyed him mentally and seriously harmed him physically, leaving him with both physical and mental scars.”
Domestic violence is often thought of as physical violence, but as the judge suggests, the psychological damage experienced can be far worse than the physical damage.
It is unfortunately much more difficult to find studies of emotional and verbal abuse than physical abuse. But when you include the full range of behaviors seen in both genders, it is entirely clear that some people (women and men include) are even more vicious emotional and verbal abusers than anything they may have done physically. Almost all have seen both very demeaning and hostile women and men and how they interact with their partners and children.
Further, it’s clear that not all domestic violence involves men. One study of 1100 lesbian and bisexual women suggests that lesbian relationships are even more violent than heterosexual ones.
Society is not going to successfully stop domestic violence without stopping the gender bias that both dilutes efforts at helping or forcing abusers to stop and creates a tremendous amount of distrust by men who are victims of either actual domestic violence or false accusations of domestic violence. It is time that gender be taken out of standards for handling DV and be replaced by a gender-neutral approach.
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