High-Conflict Divorces

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February 3rd, 2009 Leave a comment Go to comments

A friend once said “marriage is grand, divorce is one hundred grand”. In a high-conflict divorce, he might have been underestimating. High-conflict divorces generally involve extended litigation, potentially crossing over from the family law arena into civil and criminal cases involving parties besides the unhappy couple. Expenses mount quickly, $100,000+ in legal fees can be expended even by warring couples with relatively modest income and assets. Financial ruin and even bankruptcy is not unusual.

Often the end of most of the litigation is brought by not a real resolution to the conflict, but by running out of money. Sadly, as more money becomes available in the future, the conflict may become renewed again. Or one of both litigants may change to less expensive litigation methods such as self-representation without legal counsel to keep the war going.

Such cases often involve dirty tactics which cause extensive damage not only to the target adults, but also to any children involved and even to the extended family. Children may be robbed of a chance to spend time with a parent and his or her extended family and inflicted with serious psychological harm.

While this is hardly an exhaustive list, these cases commonly feature problematic behaviors including:

  • False accusations of domestic violence in the forms of child abuse and partner violence

  • Falsely obtained restraining orders (also known as protective orders) to gain de facto custody of children and to severely financially damage a former spouse (often the man, but increasingly this happens to women, too)

  • Parental alienation (training kids to hate a parent)

  • Perjury

  • Refusal to follow court orders (contempt of court)

Frequently the cases are driven by one or both parties exhibiting aggressive and unreasonable behaviors brought on by mental illness. Personality disorders are a particularly extreme source of unending conflict. Even a mentally stable person when attacked during a high-conflict divorce for years or more can start to exhibit behaviors associated with mental illnesses, particularly depression and anxiety disorders.

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  1. Mccreight29
    April 29th, 2012 at 11:43 | #1

    We started off with a $3000 retainer. In no time we were paying $500 a visit. Its not at the end over a year later and we have paid almost $10,000 for a divorce that hasnt happened yet. We have seen allegations of physical abuse, denial of visitation because the children didnt want to go, medicals copay in the thousands in one single month. The mother is PDA for sure but unless we get the court to see it this wont matter. Our judge stated in court he was partial to mothers. Good luck to anyone else walking in our shoes.

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