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Those of you who found the posts on William Stoneking’s ongoing problems (click here to see them all) at the hands of the Missouri family law courts may be interested to know that Mr. Stoneking has a blog documenting his continuing battles to see his daughter Alexis. After re-establishing contact with Alexis for a while, his ex has yet again blocked his access. As of January 2009, he hasn’t seen or talked with his daughter in about 6 months. His ex, Shirley Anne Lincoln, is apparently in violation of the custody orders that Alexis should have spent summer 2008 in Illinois with her father.

This case is apparently full of problems with parental alienation, violation of court orders, perjury, and other problems associated with high-conflict divorces involving child custody. If you’re going through such an experience, Mr. Stoneking’s thoughts may be useful to you.

William Stoneking’s Blog: Victims of Family Court Violence & Corruption

Parental alienation is the systematic denigration committed by an alienating parent against a target parent in order to influence their children to dislike and mistreat the target parent. It typically also involves blocking of access to the target parent, often in violation of court orders regarding custody, exchanges, and visitation.

J. Michael Bone, Ph.D. is an eminent authority on parental alienation. [See Wikipedia: Parental Alienation] Dr. Bone’s website offers pre-recorded teleseminars on how targeted parents can overcome Parental Alienation. Available titles include:

Dr. Bone has also written a number of journal articles on parental alienation. One of these is available for electronic purchase and download here: Parental alienation syndrome: how to detect it and what to do about it.: An article from: Florida Bar Journal.

Books

For those of us involved with the US family law system and a personality disorder victim trying to destroy our lives, we know very well how difficult it is to overcome the lies, deceptions, distortions, and law violations that personality disorder victims often use to harm us.

A large part of the problem is the courts — they are not designed for dealing with the mentally ill. Moreover, they are filled with judges who lack adequate training in psychology and have personal biases of their own. The judges often end up abusing the non-PD parent almost as conspirators.

This book by William Stoneking documents his travails with a defective and biased court system in Missouri and how his family was abused by Judge Kathryn Elizabeth Davis.

The Diary of a Patient Man, A Father’s Struggle

Description:
A compelling and inspirational true story of a father’s plight and fight for his only child and the nightmares of dealing with his domestically violent ex-wife and a biased court system that tried to chase him away.

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Domestic Abuse Assessment in Child Custody Disputes:
Beware the Domestic Violence Research Paradigm 

by Donald G. Button
Department of Psychology
University of British Columbia

Abstract:

In some states custody assessors are now required to become familiar with the dynamics of prevalence of domestic abuse since the presence of one or more abusive parents in the house has impact on the “best interests of the child”. The domestic abuse literature is misleading in setting a framework for abuse incidence and threat source for children. Males are represented as primary perpetrators of physical abuse although data from meta-analytic studies show otherwise. Indirect aggression is scarcely mentioned in the literature, although prevalent in research on aggression. Physical violence directed towards children is actually more likely to be mother–perpetrated. Child safety may be compromised if attention is focused solely on the possibility of abuse from a male perpetrator.

[click here to see full text of paper]

The choice of a marriage therapist is a very serious matter.  Some of them are pro-marriage, capable of maintaining civility during sessions, and push both parties to try to work out their problems but in a neutral, unbiased fashion and without ordering the patients to take drastic actions.  Such therapists can be a great asset.  They will listen to both sides objectively, tease out inconsistencies, get people to open up about their real problems and issues, and enable progress towards resolving the problems.  The best of them even gradually teach their clients how to do these things themselves.

However, if you pick a poor therapist, you may rapidly find that not only will your marriage be destroyed, you may also end up with losing contact with your children and/or false criminal allegations against you.  This is particularly a problem for men, but can happen to women, too.

A poor marriage therapist can destroy your marriage and create a “death spiral” out of your life.

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If you’re involved in a court case and seem to be getting shafted with injustice repeatedly, here are some things to watch out for in opposing counsel.  In high-conflict litigation, it appears to be more common for the plaintiff’s lawyer to be “ethically challenged”, although certainly not all are.  (It is certainly possible for the defendant’s attorney to be unethical, also.)  If you are represented by counsel, point out behaviors like those below to your attorney as you may be able to better recognize them with your one case (or few cases, for some unlucky folks) than an attorney who may be handling dozens of cases for dozens of clients at the same time.

If you are self-represented (Pro Se or Pro Per), you have to be particularly on the lookout for these behaviors and bring the judge’s attention to them if you are to have any chance of getting them to stop.

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(Click here for more coverage of Borderline Personality Disorder.)

Here’s an intriguing look into the miserable lives of a loving father, his new partner, and the psychopathic ex-wife who appears to suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder. If you’re going through a divorce with a Borderline or think you are living with a Borderline, this site will give you some hope that you are not alone.

The Psycho Ex-Wife blog

Judge Diane E. Gibbons Confirms Herself An Enemy of Free Speech and Supporter of Abuse By Silencing The Psycho Ex Wife Website