I was fortunate, and I don’t take it for granted. But let me say this: Beware of the people around you, and who you let into your kids lives. There are sad, pathetic individuals out there who would do anything to ruin your life and steal your children, and this is by no means limited to CPS caseworkers. There are aunts, uncles, cousins, and even grandmothers who are capable of falsely reporting to CPS just because they want your kids. Guard your children, because in this day and age you just never know.

I am the father in the case that this so called “scared Grandma” mentioned. This is one of the most elaborate instances of deception I’ve seen yet. Before you buy into this psycho’s pity stories, realize that even with the tangible evidence in front of her, she would rather protect her daughter at the expense of her grandchildren’s safety than to face truth. While all of these accusations are lies, there are only certain points that need to be addressed, as people believe what they want in the end.

My son was nearly KILLED when his mother went into a fit of rage as a result of his frequent crying in the first weeks of life. She slammed him with enough force to crack his skull.

According to a licensed clinical social worker on this case, this “scared grandma’s” daughter, the Mother in this case, displayed all the symptoms throughout out marriage of post-partum psychosis. Not depression, PSYCHOSIS. Both “Scared Grandma” and the Mother failed polygraph tests at San Diego Police Dept, a corrupt organization who in conjunction with CPS, covered up that fact and LIED to the dependency court REPEATEDLY. I have proof because “scared grandma” left her cell phone behind when she moved out of our home, allowing me to discover all the text messages where the Mother revealed her failure, and stated that she was even being interrogated! Yet the court report clearly says they PASSED?! This is one coverup that allowed me to get Federal authorities involved.

One one occasion, the Mother revealed that she nearly drove off a cliff in one of several suicidal episodes WITH my child in the back seat. One of several suicidal episodes. Yet a gullible social worker bought her phony tears and her supposed ignorance to any possible cause for my son’s LIFE THREATENING injuries.

Another example. To protray me as a psycho, the Mother lied to CPS and said that I MADE HER WALK right after a gall bladder surgery from Sharp to Rady’s Hospital, a COMPLETE lie that she immediately recanted. But did CPS put that into the report, NO! They put her lies in there for the judge to see, in addition to their own.

Yet CPS bought her lies no matter what the evidence against her, and proceeded to twist every detail of this case against me. They even went so far as to ask me to engage in a type of therapy, ruled by their OWN appointed therapist to be HARMFUL to me, as a condition of reunification. When this therapists findings became favorable, a 20 something social worker actually questioned the therapist, who has been practicing TWICE as long as she’d been alive, whether she thought I was MANIPULATING her?! Ridiculous! Yet, all the Mother’s therapist had to say was “nothing about her looks like a perpetrator”!

If anyone can tell me what a perpetrator “looks like”, please share. I would’ve never married this psycho let alone had kids with her.

The list goes on and on.

Look closely at what “scared Grandma” writes in this article above. You can clearly see the sheer amount of paranoia, even where she claims that I “have people listening in” so I can set them up. These are telltale signs of a guilty conscience. “Scared Grandma” would rather believe that her daughter could never commit such a crime against my sons, rather than protect them – and she knows it.

With regards to the statement about me being “slime” and “shacking up”, I don’t shack up with anyone. I find it laughable that “scared grandma”, the same person who locked her daughter out of the house as a kid so she could have sex with one of her many boyfriends, could even think to make any negative comment about what I do over here.

She displayed unnaturally possessive behavior towards my first son from the outset, so much in fact that she ended her 5+ year relationship because my son became more attached to her boyfriend than she wanted! Oh I have letters in writing about all this, and as an award winning journalist who depends on honesty for a living, I seriously doubt his words. Based on what I have seen and what I’m told about her therapy sessions, you’re capable of doing ANYTHING to push the male figure out of your life, or your daughters.

Bottom line, I love my children and would never hurt them. The FACT is, the children in my care suffered no injuries, until their Mother became the primary caretaker. This site is for people who have been victimized by a corrupt organization, not for the delusional to post their lies in an effort to try to vindicate CPS. You should save your breath for court “scared grandma”, because we are coming in hard against CPS and the people responsible for my children still being in danger. This will not end until I get justice for my children!

I doubt you can trust the local prosecutor’s office, either. Even if you were to bring them evidence of this crime, for instance audio and video recordings of the social worker requesting a bribe, they may decide to prosecute you instead of the social worker. Their logic would be that the recordings are illegal and you are a criminal, they want to put somebody in jail, and they don’t want to embarrass their bosses in the San Diego County Board of Supervisors.

After countless Grand Jury investigations of San Diego CPS, the county supervisors fully know how CPS hurts families. But they are happy for it to continue because it helps them balance their budget via Title IV funding they receive for abusing children and terrorizing parents. That’s why you should vote against all county supervisor incumbents. Both Ron Roberts and Bill Horn are up for re-election in November 2010. Voters should vote them both out. While there’s no way to know for sure if Stephen Whitburn and Steve Gronke will be any better, simply shaking up the current board with outsiders is likely to create some resistance to the corruption-and-abuse-is-good thinking of the board.

The same county supervisors have controlled the region for more than a decade without any serious challenges. County employees were fed up and sponsored a term limits proposition in the June 2010 elections which passed.

You can see a hint of the sort of corrupt behaviors pervasive to San Diego County’s government from how its chief administrative officer used his job and county resources to fight the proposition.

(from San Diego County Supervisor Term Limits, Measure B (June 2010))

San Diego County’s Chief Administrative Officer Walt Ekard sent an e-mail to about 1,250 recipients attacking the term limits measure. He wrote, “Term limits is a fools errand that only helps perpetuate inexperience, mediocrity and special interest control. … Let’s do things the old-fashioned way and just trust the voters to decide whom they want to represent them.”[7] Public employees are not allowed to use public resources to support or oppose ballot measures and, as a result, Ekard has been criticized for sending the missive. He, however, told a local newspaper he believes he did nothing wrong.

Walter Ekard is part of the reason for CPS abuse of families and children and the corrupt nature of the county’s government. When the current board is replaced by new members, they would do well to get rid of him.

Your best bet may be to work with investigative news media, perhaps 60 Minutes or another group not influenced by dirty local politics, and also with the FBI or State Attorney General’s office.

My son in law nearly killed my 3 week old grandson. He could not wait for the CPS case to close so he can now sue CPS. He is evil defined, and not many people know it because of the face he shows. But I was there when the older child would stop on a dime if his father even looked at him. He was 16 months old at the time. I was there when there were two bite mark bruises on the child and when I took a picture of the second time, my son in law erased it telling me that I had no right to take a picture of his son without his permission. I was there when my daughter and I came back from a 4 day trip and both of his little ears were completely black (bruised) because he “fell”. I later found out he liked to flick him in the ears to get him to mind. He was 14 months old at the time. I was there when on three separate occasions, his little face was covered with broken blood vessels from crying hard, and my son in law said “he didn’t cry, I don’t know what you’re talking about”. I was there when my son in law was looking at him with fury because his sippy cup was leaking on the couch. I took the garbage out and when I came in the baby was screaming and his face was beat red. I asked why, and my son in law said “because he’s crying”, and when I said his face never gets that red when he cries, he said “oh I just washed his face, the water might have been a little too hot”. On his first birthday, we were out to breakfast and his father took him out to the car to change his diaper. When he came in he had a red mark on his forehead and another between his eyes. He later got a slight black eye. I asked what happened, my son in law told me that he had been thrashing around and must have banged against something. Later he admitted he had “plucked” (I call it thumping)him in the head because he wouldn’t hold still when he was changing his diaper. Of course no one was around when he admitted that to me. One time he got ready to “pluck” him in the head because he had crawled into the kitchen and he knew he wasn’t supposed to (under 1 year old at the time) and I told my son in law if he did it, I would call 911. And I talked to friend in a different state about what to do, and was told that nothing would be done if I didn’t actually see anything happen. My biggest regret in life – not calling anyway.

When my daughter and her family moved to San Diego due to a job transfer for her, my son in law refused to look for work and was the main caretaker of my grandson. My son in law convinced my daughter that I was jealous of their happy family and that I was trying to break it up, and I wanted my grandson for my own. She refused to believe me when I would tell her something was not right.

Fast forward to April of last year. Another baby is born. When he is 3 weeks old, he begins to cry non stop. Literally non stop. Then, he stops. He is catatonic and having seizures. My son in law doesn’t want to take him to the doctor. Finally they do. He has a skull fracture, several subdural bleeds, dead brain matter, retinal hemorrhaging, bruises on his face from where my son in law tried to force feed him. (They stayed back in their bedroom the entire time the baby was fussy so I did not see him until right before they took him to the hospital.) A hold is placed on the baby at the hospital. They take the older child too and send him to Polinsky (where he sucked his thumb going in and was scared to when he came out) then my parents came down and gave up several months of their life to take care of these children. I couldn’t have them because I lived in the home too and no one was admitting to hurting the baby. My grandson was on life support, and eventually taken off and then he was released.

A few days later he was readmitted with hydrocephalus and had to have a VP shunt put in his brain to drain the fluid. Something he will have for life. I remember coming home from work one day, and my son in law was moving furniture around in their bedroom. He doesn’t even wash a dish, so why was he doing this? I found it odd, really odd. He also came home the first night the baby was in the hospital and moved a coffee table to sit in front of the love seat instead of in front of the couch where it had been. The wonderful detective came over the next day to interview me. The first thing she asked me was if my son in law had moved any furniture. I said yes. She mentioned that she found it odd he had come home in the middle of the night when his son was in the hospital in PICU in critical condition. She also told me that my son in law had told the doctors and the detectives that the older grandson had head butted the baby a few days ago. She described what he had told her and the way he said it had happened could not have been possible with the position the coffee table had been in. She interviewed me (my oldest grandson was still with me at that point, he was taken later that day). When she left, she said she was authorized to remove him from the home, but she did not feel the need.

My son in law then spent the next two weeks frantically on the computer searching for any way my grandson could have the brain injuries. He tried to say he got the fracture during delivery. At this point we were thinking the same thing. Come to find out later, the skull fracture was too large to have been done in the birth canal. The following 1+ year, up to now, my EX son in law has done everything within his power to make our lives miserable. My daughter ended up getting the children back, she worked very hard to do it. CPS said they had never seen anyone work so hard, and even asked her permission to use her work as a teaching tool. We found out that the “norm” is for women to choose the abuser over the children, and that is why we have so many children in foster care now. (My son in law knew that, because he tried to make CPS think she was in contact with him and was going to reunite with him.)

My point in sharing my tragedy with you, is that sometimes it may look like someone is getting screwed over by CPS and it just is not the case. My son in law will no doubt find some slimy lawyer willing to take his case and willing to buy into his lies and rake my daughter over the coals even more than she already has been. We do have facts on our side. For example, he calls about once every 3 months and he will leave a voice mail that says “just trying to get in touch with the kids AGAIN” and sigh, so you know someone is in the background hearing him and thinking we never answer the phone or let him talk to the kids. He is probably even pretending to call all the time when someone is standing there, but he really isn’t. We have phone records to back that up! He even LIED TO A JUDGE, when it was brought up in court that he was not attending any of the medical appointments, he said to the judge “I don’t know what they are talking about, I go to all the appointments”, and he knows the doctors, physical therapists, etc. can testify that he has not been to any! But he will get some slimy lawyer to buy into it. I just hope that any attorney who takes his case, takes a look at the medical records, and keeps in mind that we have tangible data to disprove all the assertations he is making! To further prove what a slime he is, he proceeded to shack up with another woman, get her pregnant and had another baby before his brain damaged son even turned 1!! And, his girlfriend refuses to believe any of this (because he is a sociopath) and in fact, went to her parents to have the baby, stayed with them until CPS came out, then left and moved in with him the next day. CPS in that state still believes she is keeping the baby away from him. What kind of man brings another child into the world in this situation. He STILL did not have a job when the new baby was born!!!!!

So, before you start believing people’s pity stories, you may just want to look into the background of the situation and talk to several people involved, not just take the word of one person who is very likely a sociopath!!

I had a son that knew sign language, was polite and sweet as a ladybug. He was honest and aimed to please.

Now he is lost. And his brother is out next year, and he is the same way. To this day CPS scares me, not just for myself, but for the USA. I have others in the system still. I expect the same. Oh yeah, we were accused of having too little food. We completed their criteria 3 times and still the paper work was lost.

I hope our story is not repeated, but alas; now my son is going through the same thing. And they had their child taken because the mother slept after having the baby, rather than nurse him.

Thank you for your time.
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